A Tampa Divorce Attorney Discusses How to Protect Your Children During a Divorce
Our Tampa divorce attorneys knows that during divorce children are often treated as collateral damage. Compared to the resources and time spent on other aspects of the divorce, the effort expended to ensure the children’s well-being can be comparatively miniscule. If no immediate physical danger threatens the children, they are often treated by the court as simply another detail to be handled along with the remaining paperwork. The reality is that the children are the parents’ most valuable possession and most important responsibility.
Provisions for the Children
If, during the process of divorce, basic provisions are enacted for the children, most will come through the divorce avoiding lasting harm. Children are remarkably resilient. One of the provisions a Tampa divorce lawyer will advise you to make is exclusion.
Divorce happens between two parties: husband and wife. Because the parties to the divorce do not include children, they should be excluded from the divorce process. Therefore, the following types of behavior should be avoided:
- Fighting with your spouse where the children can see or hear. Exposing the children to fighting brings the children into the conflict and causes them stress and anxiety.
- Bringing a child into the conflict as a friend or pal. Changing the parent-child relationship from one of authority to pal confuses the child and takes away the parent’s authority.
- Bringing the child into the conflict as a confidant. Children do not have the maturity necessary to handle the emotional issues involved.
- Using the child as a spy. Asking children to supply one parent with information about the other is asking them to betray someone they love, and will damage the parent/child relationship.
- Using the child as a pawn. Children should never be treated as a bargaining chip; doing so equates them with simple property and degrades the parents’ status in their eyes.
A knowledgeable and competent Tampa divorce lawyer can help you protect your children throughout the entire divorce process. Please call the All Family Law Group at 813-321-3421 or contact us by email to request a free consultation.