How do I start the mediation process?

If you would like to get a mediation before you even file your case, then you can see if the opposing party would be willing to do that.  However, filing first is ideal as then you have a deadline to complete the mediation as well as obtaining financial discovery or other discovery that would be needed at the mediation. Once you file your case, then the court would have jurisdiction over it and you can motion the court to order you to mediation.   You can also see if the other party is willing to just schedule and attend the mediation without a court order.  If your spouse is not being cooperative during the divorce, then having a court order is necessary as then he or she would have to attend it or be in contempt of court.  In Hillsborough County mediation is a requirement before you can take your case before the court, except in an emergency situation.